ABOUT PAT SHEVELAND
Grief Coach & Certified Funeral Celebrant
As a child born to grieving parents, I have a unique perspective and first- hand understanding of the impact of long-term grief from the death of a child can have on a family. I have also been front and center with grief from the time I was a little girl. In fact, from the tender age of 5, I have had an innate understanding that death is a part of life and that grief is a critical part of the healing process.
My B.R.E.A,T.H.E. coaching program was developed when grieving mothers came to me to help them find healing in their grief. After working several years with these beautiful mothers as my wisdom-keepers, I was able to create a program that incorporated steps that had been proven to help grieving families find some healing and peace in their deep grieve.
As my own grieving mother aged and could no longer fully care for herself, I found that there is a period of time in our lives that I call "pre-grieving" - the time where we have an opportunity to heal any emotional wounds for ourselves or our loved ones, to find a balanced approach to lovingly care for our family, and live a life that allows us to live our dream - a win/win for everyone in our family!
I developed my B.A.L.A.N.C.E. program from living life in the middle, where I took care of my elderly mother, emotionally and financially supported my family, and found the freedom and flexibility to pursue my own dreams. This program has been highly successful and my greatest joy is to watch my clients step into the life that brings them deep healing, so much hope, and beautiful harmony with their family and work!
My background with grief spans decades - from my work as a Registered Nurse in the hospital setting, to my long-time career as an executive in the worker's compensation insurance industry, and ultimately to my work as a life coach specializing in helping families find healing in their grief.
Bereaved families should be able to feel safe and supported in their grief. They should never have to feel abandoned and they should be allowed to grieve in the way that feels right for them.
My “soul” purpose is to be a light for those who grieve, by providing compassionate guidance for those who are mourning the death of their loved one.
Because of my own experience as a life-long caregiver in both my professional and personal life, I know what it’s like to juggle all the responsibilities of caring for aging parents, managing a demanding career, and being a support to children and grandchildren. Instead of easing into the second half of my life and being excited about my future, I became the poster child for emotional and physical burnout.
It took a major move, literally moving into a multigenerational home, where I found true healing and renewed optimism for my future. I know without a doubt that we can have and deserve to have it all. We do not have to settle for an either/or life. We can have the deep satisfaction of lovingly caring for our family and still have the freedom and flexibility to live the life of our dreams.
I am also a Certified Celebrant for Funerals and Celebrations of Life, serving those families who may not be affiliated with any formalized religion or church. My goal is to support the family by creating a personalized service to honor their loved one as they take the first steps on their path of grief.
As a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) through the International Coaching Federation:
I am held to the highest standards in the coaching industry
I am required to stay current with my coaching tools and resources by attending continuing education to maintain my certification status
I help walk those who are caring for their loved one or grieving the loss of their loved one to find the energy to take the steps to move positively forward to breathe and find balance to move forward with peace and a greater sense of purpose.